One of my biggest resolutions this summer was to try and live outside of my comfort zone. I’ve been inspired by many of those around me to do the things that I fear the most, because it feels like a breakthrough every time. But the real moment that struck me to live outside of my comfort zone was when my friend presented me with a quote after i told her about big dreams and bigger insecurities.
” Life begins at the end of your comfort zone”
Following that day, i kept stumbling upon quotes like ” You only get in life what you have the courage to ask for”- Oprah Winfrey. And it really took a profound influence in the way I decided to tackle life and the rest of my journey. One of my biggest challenge was to look beyond other people’s opinions. I would go as far as to dismiss my own judgment and taste to satisfy other’s taste buds, just so i can receive a nod of acceptance.
But upon various readings from different blogs and quotes, I’ve learned that, Happiness is not only a choice, but it also comes from within us. Here’s an inspirational quote that taught me this.
” Something wonderful begins to happen with the simple realization that life, like an automobile, is driven from the inside out, not the other way around. As you focus more in becoming more peaceful with where you are, rather than focusing on where you would rather be. You begin to find peace right now- in the present. Then as you move around, try new things, and meet new people, you carry the sense of inner peace with you. Its absolutely true that wherever you go , there you are” – Richard Carlson
Its important to know that real happiness, the kind of happiness that lasts, is the one that comes from within. Because its the kind of happiness that feeds from understanding and peacefulness within yourself, not a dependent variable from the outside of which you have no control over. Too often, people feed their happiness off other’s compliments. And maybe, for the rush of the moment, you’ll feel good. But it doesn’t last. Sure, smile and light up when you receive compliment, but dont let it define you. When I realized this, it marked the moment that I overcame my own biggest barrier.
Im not saying that right now this moment, I am living straight out of my comfort zone. I still get shy about meeting new people, i still fear the rejection of an unreturned affection, i still cringe at the risk of failure. But knowingly, I start to present my best smile when I meet new people, I pat of the dust of rejection or failure and continue with my life knowing that its only part of living to experience these. And I am pretty happy where I am!